Many times when I interview people, I find that they are so nervous that they can't answer me. I think it is because that they are hoping so much for the job that they work themselves up until they forget everything else.
Just relax and take it as it is. :) Just breath and answer the questions and not get too worried about if you get the job or
For as long as I can remember, life has taught me that you must have money. Lots of money. Enough money so that you can do nothing and enjoy your life on a lovely island somewhere in the world, that you probably own.
In reality, is this what it is for? I don't see the richest people in the world enjoying their life on a beach somewhere for the rest of their life. So what does money actually do for us?
When we were young(er), all of us have been taught that money buys happiness. And if you don't have enough, there is always Mastercard. But that gets you in a trap of owing more and more money! And so, you can't get money to do what it is supposed to!
But what is money for? For me, when I was young it was to buy cool stuff and fast cars and enjoying life. As I grew older and became a father, money was to take care of my kids. And after years of thinking and figuring it out, I feel that money is meant to allow you to do what you want, to give you the time and opportunity to explore and be able to do the things that you want to.
Looking at the rich people in the world, we hear they take expensive holidays, live in expensive homes and drive expensive cars. But they all do what they are passionate about and bring change to whoever they are able to. That is what money is meant to do. Not to buy things and do nothing but to do what you want that you feel will make a difference.
I am far from being a millionaire and being able to afford to do all this, but if I was able, I would love to take time to share with others on life and why we should think for ourselves instead of listening to the advertising and marketing of large corporations, to make common sense common again. Maybe some of you wont agree with me now, but I am sure one day you will realize that all the money you have is not everything.
Hopefully this will help someone out there look differently at their bank account. :)
Earlier on I talked about doing job research and asking questions to know more. But I forgot to add a part on actually looking at those jobs that you want and trying out for them.
How many have actually tried this? I am not sure. But I do it. I apply for jobs every couple years to see what do i qualify for now and what am I worth.
Give it a try, I am not asking you to accept it but do always try out to apply for positions that you would want and remember the questions that they ask. Because if you don't have the work experience to back it up, you will not be able to get the job. And by knowing what they are looking for, it makes it easier for you to know what you need to build up!
My wife has always told me that I should write a book, about my thoughts, my management style and recently, on relationships. This is partly the reason why I have this blog, which is to help me write about things and get more thoughts written down instead of being spoken.
But maybe I should look at writing some things down on relationships. either personal or work relationships. :) I do talk about networking and relationships next to networking is important and it is something that we need to look at during our working and personal lives.
Personal relationships are also important as they do affect our working efficiency. When we are happy, we work better. When we are sad, we won't work well. So it is important to ensure that our personal relationships are also on track if we want to ensure we are able to do well at work.
I will probably continue on this later on. :) Hope to write more posts on this later on.
Was looking at my FB feed and I found this interesting. I don't think that this is 100% accurate but it gives us a general way to look at how things are going and what we do
I always wonder if i am the only one who does job research and focuses on what I need to improve on to become better at what I do. It's not just a simple what do I want to be in 3 or 5 years time but actually looking for those who do it and ask them about the job itself.
Just felt like writing about this today as for many years, I have usually been the youngest in whatever post I do and I do feel I am pretty well compensated for what I do. Or maybe it's just because money is not a major motivator for me.
But anyway, what do I do? Well, it's simple... I just observe and ask questions. Lots and lots of questions. I ask so many questions until some people get sick of me. Well, I am trying to achieve my objective!
I just look to ask on a few basic things
It's easy right? But it's more than just that. You need to know how to ask questions and also to get the information that you want. You need to think on your feet and have an objective.
So as you think about moving up the ladder and look for better jobs, you need to do some research on your target jobs and talk to the people who do it. A skip level 1x1 is a really great tool to ask how to become your boss but most people take it as a time to complain about their bosses.
As I sit here listening to some music and reading on Facebook, I came across this which I feel very strongly about.
In my life, I have had friends make fun of me for driving a small car and not 'enjoying' what I earn. But to me its about prioritization and I just want to owe less in my life and focus on important things like buying good food and toys for my kids.
Have a read and hope you share with others. And if you don't understand Malay, http://translate.google.com is your friend!
Kekayaan ‘Bocor’ Kerana Kereta.
This is one of my favorite nursery rhymes as it helps me think when things go down.
The itsy-bitsy spider
Climbed up the water spout
Down came the rain
And washed the spider out
Out came the sun
And dried up all the rain
And the itsy-bitsy spider
Climbed up the spout again
So what does it have to do with a blog that is talking mainly about working life?
Well, the answer is very simple… just read it again!
Life and work life has its ups and downs. We are always looking to climb the corporate ladder and to get to a higher position with more money, responsibility and in some cases, fame.
However, we do get washed down by “rain” every now and then but don’t fuss, don’t fret, just pick yourself up and climb on up again. The sun will come out and the rain will stop but we must always look to continue climbing up again.
Inspiration does come from places where you find them.
I have been thinking a lot recently on where should my path take me. And all more importantly I have figured out is what I enjoy doing. Earlier I discussed that we need to know what we don't want to do and that makes it easier for us to know what we like. So now lets explore on the stuff that makes us happy.
Why did I start off with what we don't want? It's simple. We must know what we don't want before we can concentrate on what we want. I not, we will focus on the things we want and forget about what we dislike. And by continuing to accept things that we dislike will make us unhappy in the end.
The path is very simple, like earlier when we listed out things that we don't want to do, start to list out things that you want to do. Be realistic. Just because you want to be a CEO of a company doesn't mean you are qualified for it now. (I'll talk about skills planning in another post, on another day)
Once you know what you would enjoy doing, it's then simple to add the lists together and start looking at jobs that will be able to grant you both. Choose what is a must have and what is a nice to have else there will be no job in the world that would satisfy you. Like I said earlier, its about living with the maybe's and staying away from the will not's.
So, earlier I talked about what do you want and also for you to think about what are you bad at. Now, it is time to put those things down and for you to narrow down what do you actually want! Yay, getting somewhere!
But don't get ahead of yourself. We must know what are we want to get ourselves into before looking into getting what we want. We need to be sure that we will not be doing things that we don't like in order to be happy doing what we are asked to do.
To make it simple, lets look at a list of things we usually don't like to do.
So, basically we will need something that is higher up in the work food chain. We don;t want to be doing the entry level boring stuff. At my level, I can choose not to but for someone starting out, you got to prove yourself first.
Speaking of being in the higher levels, we actually have to do more of the things that we don't like in order to do what we would like. It's a trade off. Simply put, we need to do it because we have the necessary skills and we reached these levels because we passed through doing the things that we didn't like in the first place. And we did them well.
Next after knowing what we don't want to do, we have to think what can we actually live with? So please look through your list and choose, what can you live with and why? Why can you take it? With that, you will now have a list of things you will never do, things you may do, and things you don;t mind doing.
Stay tuned for the next post where we will start looking at what we want to do!